ian: manny i have a question
ian: err sorta weird
ian: but then
ian: when do u give up on a friend?
manny: what do you exactly mean by give up?
ian: hmm to me it means
ian: not try as much as before... its like things will change
ian: it's like distancing urself
manny: well personally, it's really hard to "give up" on a person you consider as a real friend
manny: i guess that's something you have to clear up first..whether or not you consider him/her as your friend
manny: if he/she is..then i dont see any reason why you should be giving up
manny: but then again it all boils down to your definition and how you put the boundaries on friendship
ian: im sure i treat the person as a real friend
ian: but a lot has happened
ian: and nowadays, u know, it's like i don't have the confidence to tell myself that that friend is happy with me being around
ian: i mean more than the hurt of things changing
ian: we were super close before
ian: what bothers me is that...
ian: hmm take this for example
ian: isipin mo may people hold a party for the person
ian: of course he'll be happy to see everyone and all
ian: but then given the chance, its like i wouldnt want to be there... bec sa sarili ko parang alam ko hndi sya masaya... na out of place ako dun
ian: (sorry for bein abruptly weird tonight)
manny: hmm..my guess is that how you feel gives a lot on insight between your relationship with your friend
manny: the way i see it, a friend should always be able to feel secure when he is around his friends and there is no exception whatsoever to this
ian: im not anymore
ian: i mean we've been trying to work it out
ian: and really i can take the hurt and all that
ian: but.. there.. its like no matter how i try or wot i do
ian: i cant feel secure. things dont get better
manny: from how i see it, i dont think you can actually still blame yourself for whatever is happening between the 2 of you
manny: you have to seriously ask yourself why no matter what you do things dont still work out and my theory is that the other person doesnt seem to put much value into your friendship..at least not enough to actually try and work things out between the two of you
ian: and given what you say, is that a sufficient enough reason to "give up"?
manny: again, the situation where i would consider giving up on a friend is when i realize that he isnt a friend after all
ian: thanks manny.